I am male, 42 years old having problems with controlling wee whenever I am pressed. I sometimes wet my pants .

Thanks a lot to those who contributed. I think I did not clearly say what my problem is. My problem is more pronounced when I take excess fluids & or alcohol. I feel the edge to go & can't control or hold my edge. I am a 42 years old male. (Still very ually active. I have no problem in that area although I take long to come at times.) I can wee stop, wee stop as part of bladder excercises. However, I don't feel the same urge whilst asleep. My frequency of wanting to go during the day/whilst still awake is much more than whilst asleep. Its bad when I am driving in the company of other people as I have to stop & by the time I reach a discreet position I will have wet myself & is sure embring to my wife & myself.I have seen my GP but I probably didn't clearly put myself across and so he did not prescribe anything. I will try to go back and probably just ask to be refered to a urologist. I still drink alcohol in moderation & lots of water. And like I said I have never smoked